Being Different Gave Confidence Coach Allan Christian Purpose

Being born with an ear deformity helped to shape the path of Allan Christian Dahlitz’s life, going from someone who was facing severe self-esteem issues to helping others overcome their own.

Kids are honest but can also be cruel. Being different in the schoolyard made Allan’s childhood much harder, with his microtia meaning not only was hearing loss a real possibility, his right ear never fully developed.

Feeling as if he was a black sheep, he struggled to make friends with kids his own age

“I felt like an outcast everywhere I looked,” Allan said.

He wasn’t able to accept himself and created barriers in his mind, believing his own family didn’t understand who he was or what he was truly going through.

“I felt alone in the world,” the confidence coach said.

Allan’s experiences of poor self-esteem and confidence are not unique. One in eight Australian men on average will experience depression and one in five men will experience anxiety at some stage of their lives, according to data from Australian mental health charity Beyond Blue. The rate of each is also higher among people with disabilities.

An interest in psychology and mindset through his late teens and early 20s helped him overcome his own struggles as Allan realised how the mind can be a barrier to personal happiness and success.

Finding himself unfulfilled in his work, he forged his own path that would allow him to help men like him on their own personal journey to self-actualisation.

In January, Allan launched his online program, The Confidence Code.

“I truly believe that each and every person truly matters in the world. We all have a beautiful gift and message to share with the world to help heal the planet,” Allan said.

“Through deep-diving into ourselves, we can find who we truly are and what we have to offer.

“I want to help men realise thought patterns that may be holding them back from success and destroy them.”

The Confidence Code is designed to help young with their own ear deformity or internal struggles destroy low self-esteem, loneliness and insecurity and in its place build confidence to ultimately reach a place of self-acceptance.

The online program includes weekly learning modules to discover each person’s limitless potential by overcoming fear and an overwhelming mindset, releasing happiness and finding freedom in the way they look at the world.

Everyone who signs up receives access to the online academy, a Facebook community of other people on their own journey of discovery and one-on-one support from Allan though accountability messaging and video calls

“I created a program that I wish I had during the early stages of feeling like an outcast,” Allan said.

“It would have changed everything for me if I had something like this and that’s exactly why I do this, so other men currently going through can learn to live with purpose and truly experience the curiosity and wonder of the world to its fullest.”

“Curiously, many of us make decisions in life which sometimes go against what we feel we want.”

Over the next 12 months, Allan hopes to grow his online global community through group coaching, in-person retreats and intensives, and workshops.

Allan’s one piece for anyone feeling as if they can’t succeed: “It’s okay to be vulnerable, there are people out there that truly want to help you and get your life on track for the better”.